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BE the Flower; Attract the BEES

be the flower

BEE the flower! That’s my plan–be the flower and they will come. In this photo, I appear to be a Black-Eyed Susan. Oh, the irony.
(Photo credit: Christine Majul Flickr CC BY 2.0)

When nothing seems to be going on, stuff still happens.

Hello, dear ones! My apologies for being absent, but I’ve been over my head with projects and commitments. I have been in the midst of taking three online classes, sinking my teeth into courses on grammar, editing, and technical writing. I’m really trying to pave a way for a writing life. Every day I get a little further away from my Information Technology background and a little closer to the dream of doing work that suits me better. I had my heyday with pushing it to the limits in a respectable career in computers, buying my first house by myself, stepping further and further up the pay scale, etc., and I’m done with it. Those identifiers of success in a traditional sense no longer hold meaning for me. My priorities have dramatically shifted in my life for good. The only thing that sits right with me now is knowing that I’m not blowing this one life that I have, knowing that I am doing work that fits me better, and knowing that going to bed less anxious and more myself is more important than the big house, the new car, and the fat paycheck.

Peace of mind is what I’m after. Keeping it simple and getting a little closer to what I believe I should have been doing all along is what is getting me there. It’s a slow process, but I am keeping my wits and my patience about me. I’m working towards creating the me I want to be. I’m working towards drawing the work towards me instead of scratching, scraping, and begging for it. My mantra: BE THE FLOWER; ATTRACT THE BEES

I’m also doing my best to not let things and people bring me down; that includes myself. Anyone who suffers with the past knows that ‘s no small egg to fry, but focusing on my dreams of what I could be is an excellent appetizer to the main course to come.

I’ve started a new blog to explore all the great nature and outdoors stuff I like to enjoy, minus all the deep talk about life challenges that you get here on SWIMMING IN THE MUD. It’s called TEARDROP ADVENTURES because it’s centered around a compact, retro Teardrop Trailer my partner and I built that allows us to access the outdoors more easily and in better style:

TEARDROP ADVENTURES : for all things outdoors, including teardrop trailer camping, hiking, backpacking, nature appreciation, etc.

My blog, Sneakers in the Dryer, is still alive and well. It’s for completed creative projects, like graphic design, fiction writing, jewelry making, and anything else that fits into the ‘creative’ category. It is my sincere goal to feed and explore creativity more this year. When I do, it’ll appear on the following blog:

SNEAKERS IN THE DRYER : exploring and feeding creativity

I’m also periodically interviewing for writing opportunities and am building a portfolio. I’ve created a blog page for that purpose; it’s structured more as a static web page. At least I’ll be able to point to it when I need to.

THE WRITE VIEW MIRROR : “Solutions to your writing needs are closer than you think!”

So, as you can see, stuff still happens even when I seem to have fallen off the face of the earth. I’ve got a life plan and I’m sticking to it. Thanks for being a tremendous part of my journey and successes!

Warmest regards,



UPDATE:  Since writing this particular post, SNEAKERS IN THE DRYER and THE WRITE VIEW MIRROR are no longer available online.

9 thoughts on “BE the Flower; Attract the BEES

  1. So what should I do when I want to know what you are up to, where your ‘better’ life is pulling you? It sounds like you are moving in the (w)right direction. I so very much need to follow this path you seem to be beating down. I am happy for you.

    • Hi, Val. That’s an excellent question. I’ve been pondering that myself… “How do I capture in one place all that is going on with me?” There’s so much and it’s kinda hard to contain in one bucket. I might create one upside-down umbrella blogsite to capture all the raindrops in one place, where the blog posts from all the different blogs show up as snippets in one news feed–something like that anyway. Now, I need to figure out how to actually do it! I’ll keep you posted.

      I’m very excited about this year, especially about a slew of upcoming hiking, backpacking, and camping trips coupled with a real effort to chronicle them, AND about committing to exploring creative endeavors (art, music, writing). I also want to write memoirs relating to what got me swimming in the mud in the first place–that’s the toughest of all the projects, and it remains to be seen whether I’ll ever be able to capture it in writing, or even whether I should.

      Thanks so much for your support, Val. It means a lot to me.

  2. First of all I miss your sweetness…
    Don’t say I’ve forgotten about you but I had a busy season & was barely having 8hrs rest in a 24:(
    Glad to know about your classes, direction, path & mantra;
    May the Power of Universe enlighten your path & guard your every step there on..

    Love & Light

    • Oh, Mira Jay,
      You break and warm my heart all in the same moment. We have a sadness and a hope in common. I pray for the same wonderful things for you. I believe in the power of the universe with all my heart and soul.

      Love & Light to you as well

  3. I am so happy for you that you are truly moving on to your new way of life. I can feel the excitement in your writing. You amaze me with all these different avenues you are pursuing. I would be interested to know which is your main career path ie putting the bread on the table.
    Interestingly, I have also enrolled in an editing course as a start to doing something that I am more tuned into than what I am currently doing.

    • I’m not sure where these efforts will take me. I consider my focus on things that interest and excite me as a collection of flowers in a basket. As I gather more and more of these flowers, I will make bouquets. As I hone my skills in things I truly enjoy, I expect to make better bouquets. That in turn should draw some attention to my skills and from there, who knows. I also make jewelry on the side and am considering ramping up my efforts to make and sell some pieces. I actually expect to develop a mixed bag of money sources that altogether can help pay the bills. I don’t have it all figured out at this time and I don’t need to. I’m confident that if I pursue what I am drawn to then I will uncover areas I excel in that I’ve not yet explored. Ideally, one or more of those areas will be particularly successful.

      “If one moves confidently in the direction of one’s dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”

      Henry David Thoreau

    • I guess I should mention that I am keeping grant proposal writing in my back pocket as a core skill that can garner decent pay. I was a paid p/t grant writer for about 7 months last year but for particularly depressing subject matter–domestic violence. I’m still a bit too fragile emotionally to submerge myself in something deep and dark, so I’m only making myself available for grant writing for positive causes, such as encouraging our children to get outdoors more often. I’m interviewing for a position right now in that area.

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