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I’ve Been Blessed

I just came home from a very long day which started with a funeral–for a young woman who was stripped of the rest of her life by cervical cancer. Even though the entire ceremony was delivered in the Romanian language, I got the message loud and clear: I am blessed; If I am standing here and witnessing this death, I am alive and I am blessed.

Later in the day, I had a conversation with a male business friend, who opened by saying, “Women have it tough. There is so much more to deal with physically as a woman.”

“You’re right,” I said, “I think women do have it tougher. Our bodies are so much more complicated; and fortunately or unfortunately, we’re hyper-sensitive and in tune with our bodies. How vulnerable are we that we can know something is wrong inside us, we can ask for medical help, maybe we’ll get told we’re okay, and then a year later may get told we have to prepare for death.”

“And in the workplace,” he said. “Women just don’t seem to be treated fairly.”

“Well, I’ve been lucky,” I said, “I’ve had a lot of support in my work career. I suspect, though, my New York sense of humor had something to do with it. I’ve always known how to play the game, how to roll with sarcasm and wisecracks. I can dish it out as well as I can take it. For whatever reason, I think that somehow earned me respect around my male peers.”

“It helps,” he said.

And I can’t deny it. In my work life and in life in general, it does help to “play the game” if doing so doesn’t harm you or anyone else in any way. It’s helpful to get good at it, to throw something back one better when you’ve been hit below the belt, to roll with the punches and try to find your sense of humor about it, because, let’s face it, life can suck sometimes, but it beats the alternative.

When I reflect on my work life, I suppose I’m one of those rare women who has a good story to tell. I’ve been welcomed and embraced in the male-dominated electronics and computer field I’ve claimed as my own. I’m immensely grateful for that. I’ve kept a positive attitude, developed an excellent sense of humor, and used it to my advantage. Only rarely have I been mistreated on the job and when action was necessary, I was taken seriously. It’s important to feel like we are taken seriously. Not all women are. Because it has served me well, I take these lessons I’ve learned with me into the rest of my life. Life is so short and we need to figure out how to live it well in the short time we are given.

I’ve been blessed . . . in life . . . in general.

Today, I’m especially mindful of that.

 

Don’t forget to make time for the ones you love,

Sue J signature

15 thoughts on “I’ve Been Blessed

  1. “I got the message loud and clear: I am blessed; If I am standing here and witnessing this death, I am alive and I am blessed.” Such a good way to look at life! Remembering to constantly be aware of the positive things that surround you.

  2. I try to think the same thing, I have been blessed. In all I have and am, blessed. Some days, it is harder than others. But if we are standing here, we are indeed blessed. I am sorry for the loss of life.

    • I agree, Val. It’s sometimes challenging, but I’ve been consciously trying to filter out more of the dark and let in more of the light. So much on my mind this week on that topic, but the reality is our time here is temporary; we are not guaranteed a tomorrow. I guess with the time I’ve been given, I want to gravitate towards the light. It’s there that I see things a little clearer.

  3. Sue, thanks for your thoughts. I, too, grew up in the work world with a group of 26 men in a mechanical enginnering office, in 1945 – 1960. I was always treated with respect, given a chance to learn the business, and advanced to the international scene. I have been blessed to have been in the work force for 45 years, and retired for 25 years now and have been respected in every situation, Life is good, Lets’s celebrate it!.

    • I happen to know that you are quite a witty character, Erma, but I didn’t know you had your footing in mechanical engineering. The only time I didn’t feel respected was early in my work years when I did simple office work. I didn’t yet know who I was and allowed others to dictate my fate. By the time I hit my mid-20s, I figured out one piece of important information . . . I can affect the outcome of my own life. From there on, I set out to do exactly that. Even with its setbacks, life IS good.

  4. So sorry to hear of the loss of your friend or colleague.
    I think your perspective that we should look at how we are blessed, look at our positives is the way to approach life. Thank you for this reminder.

    • Thank you, Elizabeth.
      Lately, when I hear of such losses, I feel and think these things, usually in order:
      – I feel the depth of the sadness and the loss.
      – Then, I think, “But, it was their time; their journey was done.”
      – Further, I think, “I am still here. How blessed I am.”
      – And then I wonder, “If I am still here, my journey is not yet over. Do I yet understand what my journey is all about, what lesson it is I am meant to learn or impart on others?”
      -And then I realize that this death is a message to all of us affected by it, to get over whatever it is that keeps holding us back and get on with doing something positive with our lives. Death to me is always a reminder.

  5. Thanks, I find each day is filled with reasons for gratitude and with a mindset of gratitude I can go forward. They say we are what we eat but mor importantly we are what we think. I too have been greatly blessed!

    • I’m so happy to hear that!

      I’ve been in that place where the opposite seemed true, where there was little to feel grateful for–the dark, where nothing is clear. But the dark never comes without the hope of light. Sometimes we need to feel great loss and disappointment before we can feel gratitude.

      Enjoy this beautiful day!

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